Love at first sight : Love jumped out in front of us, like a killer jumping out of the ground in an alley, and struck us both at once!” Mikhail Bulgakov wrote in the novel The Master and Margarita. “Love will suddenly come when you don’t expect it at all,” Leonid Utesov agreed in a song to the words of Vasily Lebedev-Kumach. “Like a fleeting vision…”,
Alexander Pushkin emphasized, admiring the beauty of Anna Kern. “Would you believe in a love at first sight? Yes, I’m certain that it happens all the time,” sang The Beatles. And they were all echoed and continue to be echoed by cinema and television, showing from time to time scenes of mutual romantic sympathy, and even strong feelings that suddenly begin to overwhelm strangers – at first sight, as they say. The phenomenon exists in real life,
– psychologists have no doubt from Murdoch University in Australia (Murdoch University, Australia). Together with their colleagues from the USA (Psychology Department, University of Colorado) and the Czech Republic (Charles University, Czech Republic), they conducted experiments in which they tried to simulate, if not love at first sight itself, then at least the situation that preceded it. And they discovered: suddenly surging or surging romantic feelings cover both men and women. But uneven. Men fall under their power stronger and more often.
It would seem, why be surprised? It is known after all that men love with their eyes, and women also with their ears. Experiments, in which 400 volunteers took part, indirectly confirmed this dogma. But let me dig a little deeper. And offer a more scientific explanation.
Scientists showed volunteers images of strangers – portraits. Men – women’s, women – men’s. They offered to rate “like – do not like.” The trick was that the images were slightly blurry. To look at them did not work. So that the volunteers, in the end, give an assessment, having received an idea, as they say, in a glimpse – as if at first sight.
Some time after the blurry image showed a clear one. And compare scores.
As a result, it turned out: at the “first” glance, women seemed prettier to men than from the “second”. For women, on the contrary: they gave higher ratings – in terms of attractiveness – to men, looking at them. That is, seeing a clear image.
In other words, men who get a glimpse of women tend to overestimate them. And be seduced. Women, as a rule, underestimate the men who flicker before their eyes. They show either prejudice or caution. Hence the conclusion that the experimenters outlined in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior – the Daily Mail refers to it : love at first sight is simply obliged to amaze men more often than women. It is even possible that she – such love – thanks to men and exists.
BY THE WAY
True love needs a second, third and fourth look. And then the fifth – control.
American biologists have determined the number of dates required for partners to thoroughly fall in love with each other. It is worth meeting at least four times. For three dates, not to mention two or one, the feelings that have arisen cannot be sorted out.
“The brain needs time to collect information, process it and introduce it to the subconscious level, where the processing of the received data will continue without the participation of the mind,” the scientists explain. – Up to the appearance of an incomprehensible feeling that came from – “I can’t live without her (him)”. This will be love.
The fact is that most of the information enters the brain unnoticed by its owner. He – the owner – can simply not pay attention to some details. But they “imprint”, and then “float up” and, forgive the banal comparison, they will fall as tiny but weighty weights on one or another scale. The more “weights”, the more correct the solution. But you don’t need to collect them indefinitely – four or five approaches, that is, dates are enough.
If there are fewer dates, then the brain may begin to give out false signals based on fantasies. And here there is a risk of either mistaking vulgar lust for love, or underestimating a partner, “inventing” non-existent negative qualities.
